The Narcissist in Your Life
Many of us recognize people who fit this disorder like a glove. They’re divorced from a person who needs endless admiration, is completely self serving and treats others as objects. Do you know someone like this? If so, chances are that you’ve been hurt by a person who needs to win at any cost; and yet is so socially capable, that she’s convinced everyone (except you) that she’s truly a great person.
There’s much to be concerned about.
- People who are narcissistic are impossibly vain. This is the least problematic issue in dealing with someone with narcissistic traits. It’s always all about them. They need attention, reassurance, and constant validation. And, if it’s not from you, it will have to come from someone else; hence the need for success in business or in extramarital affairs. It may not be about sex, but rather about being wanted.
- People in narcissistic rage can hurt or kill. Do you know someone who is radically unforgiving when they feel judged or betrayed? Normal people get angry. A narcissistic person will often want revenge, and won’t let go.
- People with narcissistic entitlement can psychologically injure those close to them. Do you count; I mean really count? Narcissistic people do fall in love, but they usually fall in love with being in love – and not with you. They crave the excitement of love, but are quickly disappointed when it becomes a relationship – and not just a trip into fantasy. You are left wondering what just happened. And if the narcissist is your Mother or Father, you stop being an adored child when parenting starts getting hard.
- People with narcissistic self righteousness can spend years in divorce court, costing every one pain and suffering…and for what? She may have left you. Or, you may be thankful for getting away from her. But, narcissistically inclined people can torture you for years in court or with your children. Their need to be right, and look great in public, combined with an entitled ruthlessness, can follow you for years to come. Watch out for your combined assets. And, be mindful of your kids. This is not an easy road.
Ref: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201305/narcissism-examined